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Monday, October 31, 2016

"Someone Like You singer" Adele set to get engaged to long-term beau Simon Konecki

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Adele is set to marry her long-term partner and the father of her son Simon Konecki before 2016 runs to an end. They have been dating for five years According to her close friend,
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Thursday, October 27, 2016

3 things that destroy relationships apart from cheating

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There are worse things than cheating.

Infidelity is the betrayal our society focuses on, but it is actually the subtle, unnoticed betrayals that truly ruin relationships. When partners do not choose each other day after day, trust and commitment erode away.

Partners may be aware of this disloyalty to each other, but dismiss it because it’s "not as bad as an affair." This is false. Anything that violates a committed relationship’s contract of mutual trust, respect, and protection can be disastrous.

Betrayals are founded on two building blocks: deception (not revealing your true needs to avoid conflict), and a yearning for emotional connection from outside the relationship.

Below are three betrayals that ruin relationships, and only by confronting and taking responsibility for them can couples reestablish their trust in each other:

Read: 6 Tips To Keep The Magic In Your Relationship
1. Emotional cheating

It’s very easy for platonic friends to bond in the trenches of work, day after day. Sometimes we call this person a "work wife" or "work husband." Even friendships made at the gym or local coffee shop can threaten the bond at home.

These non-sexual relationships can lead to both parties sharing intimate details about each other’s lives. That doesn’t make it a betrayal. What makes it a betrayal is this: if your partner would be upset by the things you’ve shared or would be uncomfortable watching the interaction.

Tom first learns of his wife’s sexless affair when they hosted a Christmas party. Emily has never mentioned Chris, the new manager of her department. At the party, Chris seems to know about Emily’s entire life. He even brought their son Marshall a Bumblebee Transformer, his favorite.

Tom looks at Emily with a shocked expression. Her sheepish look sinks his heart. When he confronts her after the party, Emily argues about her friendship with Chris. She tells Tom it’s "nothing" because they are "just friends."

She then turns against Tom and defends Chris. She accuses Tom of being irrationally jealous and tells him it’s the reason he didn’t know about Chris in the first place. Tom feels there is nothing irrational about his jealousy.

Whether he admits it or not, his wife is cheating. The evidence lies in her secrecy. These are signs that your partner’s friendship is not an innocent friendship:
Has the friendship been hidden?
Are your questions about the friendship responded with “don’t worry” or discouragement?
Have you asked it to end, only to have your partner tell you no?
Have your boundaries been disrespected?
Is the friend the subject of fantasies or comments during troubled times in the relationship?

If you answered "yes" to any of the questions above, the friendship may be too intimate. You need to talk to your partner about the issue.

2. Conditional love

Couples don’t feel supported when one partner keeps a foot out of the relationship. They don’t feel like their partner has their best interests at heart, that they have their back. When this happens, it’s not uncommon for the betrayed partner to blame a trigger as the real problem, when it’s actually the lack of commitment.

As Kristina reflects on her first marriage, she knows she began to feel betrayed when her husband stalled on starting a family. At first she thought he was anxious about becoming a father, but in couples therapy it became clear that he was hesitant to deepen his commitment to her.

Like an anxious lover, she clung onto him with desperation, terrified of losing her marriage... until she realized she never really had one to begin with.

Sometimes, a partner may pressure the other to marry or move in, believing the "next level" will deepen their connection, but it’s difficult for a marriage to succeed if it is built on a vow to create a strong bond rather than the result of one. The shallowness of the bond will eventually bleed through the connection.

Steps to create unconditional love: When couples ignore or dismiss talking about difficult issues, they are left with a shallow commitment. By using conflict as a catalyst for closeness, couples can intentionally use problems as an opportunity to discuss their goals, fears, and dreams.

Couples that unconditionally love each other live by the motto,"Baby, when you hurt, the world stops and I listen."

Read: 11 Things That Really Matter in a Relationship apart from Communication

3. Emotional withdrawal
Emotional withdrawal can be something big, like choosing a work meeting over a family funeral, or it can be as small as turning away when your partner needs emotional support.

A committed relationship requires both partners to be there for each other through the life-altering traumas and everyday nuisances. That means celebrating joys and successes with your partner, too.

Everybody has different ways of expressing themselves. In a committed relationship, it is the responsibility of both partners to uncover and disclose these preferences to understand what the other requires to feel loved, protected, and supported.

Emotional withdrawal sets in when bids are ignored.

Solution: To improve your emotional connection, focus on rebuilding and updating your Love Maps, cultivating a culture of admiration and fondness, and turning towards bids more often.

Do any of the items listed above feel familiar or make you feel uneasy? If so, you may be facing a betrayal. Maybe it’s as serious as finding discomforting text messages between your partner and someone else. This list is not about who is right or wrong.

Like sexual affairs, these betrayals can be overcome if you recognize the problem and repair the relationship together.

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Wednesday, October 26, 2016

Ciara and Russell Wilson are expecting their first child together

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Singer Ciara announces her pregnancy for Wilson on her Instagram page. The singer, who turned 31 today the image...

Russell wrote:

This will be 27-year old Wilson's first child while Ciara has a son from a previous relationship with her former boyfriend, the rapper Future.  The newlywed couple got married in July. Congratulations to them.
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Tuesday, October 25, 2016

Janet Jackson steps out with her husband Wissam Al Manna

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Amazing couple....
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Stephanie Okereke shares official Photos from Maxwell Linus 1-year Birthday

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Stephanie Okereke-Linus and her husband celebrated their son Prince Enosata Maxwell's birthday on Sunday, October 23, 2016.  He turned 1. Wishing Maxwell many wonderful returns of the day.

 Here are some photos from the colourful celebration. 

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Meet the baby girl from Texas who was born twice

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Lynlee weighed 2.4kg when she was born a second time. Picture: Facebook

A little girl, Lynlee from Texas who was removed from the womb at 23 weeks for surgery and then placed back in her mother’s womb is being called nothing short of a miracle. According to her mother Margaret Boemer, she received a scary news about her baby early in her pregnancy.
“They saw something on the scan, and the doctor came in and told us that there was something seriously wrong with our baby and that she had a sacrococcygeal teratoma,” Boemer said in an interview shared by Texas Children’s Hospital. “And it was very shocking and scary, because we didn’t know what that long word meant or what diagnosis that would bring.”
Eventually little Lynlee was able to go home with her family. Picture: Facebook
Lynlee with her family
Lynlee Boemer was removed out of the womb for 20 minutes when she weighed just 548g to remove the tumor.  She was later put back inside her mum's uterus where she remained for another 12 weeks before she was born into the world by C-section at 36 weeks and weighed 2.4kg.
“It was her second birth basically,” Boemer said. “It was a relief to finally see her and to see that she had made it through after the open fetal surgery her heart had time to heal while I was still pregnant with her so she has no heart issues now and is just doing amazing.”

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How to Overcome 4 Obstacles Standing Between You And A Healthy Lifestyle

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You get really motivated to be healthier: You eat fewer calories and more fruits and vegetables, you try to work out more, you buy organic food.

Yet, you continually lose motivation and fall off the wagon.

Does this sound familiar? Unfortunately it is so common, but that doesn’t make it any less frustrating.

The truth is, it’s hard to change habits and live a healthier life.

I experienced a similar pattern. It started early on. I remember being in middle school and wanting to lose weight. I knew vegetables and exercise were healthy.

I cut my calories down to an unsustainable amount, eating mostly veggies, and started to work out harder than I should have.

I basically took the DJ Tanner approach from “Full House.” I saw virtually no results and felt awful so it lasted all of a week or two before I gave up and went back to my normal life.

I felt like a failure and decided maybe I wasn’t meant to be thin.

I just sort of lived with that through the years after each failed healthy eating attempt. I tried healthy weight loss multiple times with no long term success.

But my final attempt — final because I’ve been maintaining it for years — was different than any of those previous, and I figured out why.

These are the four main obstacles I experienced in my years of trying to get healthy and ways to push through them to achieve success.

1. No Time

Free time is precious and limited.

We’re so busy with obligations, work, maintaining a social life and needing time to unwind, it’s hard to fit in the task of making your life healthier.

The truth is, though, you have time for what you make a priority.

One reason healthy living isn’t so much of a priority is our own negative experiences with it — either we don’t want to eat healthy food, we’re scared of failing again or we don’t know which advice to follow.

These are all valid reasons not to commit fully. Although healthy habits shouldn’t compete with your life, they should blend into it.

Read: 7 Lifestyle Habits That Cause Diseases in People

You do have to make some time for it, but it doesn’t have to be as miserable as it’s made out to be to get results.

Start small by adding in or replacing an unhealthy habit with one new healthy habit.

It can be having an extra serving of vegetables a day or swapping your breakfast sandwich for a green smoothie a couple days a week.

Once you find you can stick to a new healthy habit, you’ll want to try more.

2. Confusion And Information Overload

There is no arguing with the fact there is an abundance of conflicting health and weight loss advice out there. It can be nearly impossible to know what’s right.

I had this thought when I attempted healthy living changes.

I felt like no matter what change I made, it was either wrong or I wasn’t doing enough, which led to me getting completely overwhelmed and giving up.

Rather than letting this prevent you from moving forward with making healthy changes, embrace it.

There is so much overlapping information out there about what is generally healthy — like eating more fruits and vegetables, reducing simple carbs, exercising more and eliminating stress.

These are great places to start.

There are so many varying opinions on the best diet because there isn’t one that’s perfect for everyone.

Everyone is different, so it’s best to find a plan that acknowledges that and can help you find the best approach for you.

3. Feeling Deprived

Many diet programs make healthy living and weight loss dependent on restrictions.

They hinge on eliminating certain foods, drastically cutting calories or making you abstain from indulging until your one weekly cheat day.

It may work, but generally, it’s a setup for failure and makes your life revolve around food.

Most of us who want to live healthier lifestyles want to develop a healthier relationship with food.

These diets often do the opposite. If you can’t follow the plan, you feel guilt and failure, which are more negative emotions related to eating.

A goal with forming healthier eating habits is to liberate yourself from food obsessions.

Don’t be so hard on yourself; you can still eat healthily and allow some guiltless and portioned indulgences.

Be flexible and tweak things as you go to find your own personal balance.

4. Striving For Perfection
It’s common to have an all-or-nothing approach with health and weight loss.

When you can’t completely stick with a plan or you fall off the wagon for a couple weeks, it’s easy to fall back on old habits.

Your mindset is just as important as any healthy changes you make.

Be comfortable with the idea there will be weeks you don’t eat perfectly clean, you’ll miss some sessions at the gym because you’d rather watch Netflix and that despite this, you’ll still feel happier and healthier than before.

Giving yourself brief breaks to recharge will help you get excited and maintain motivation in continuing with your healthy habits.

Give yourself a pat on the back for trying to live a healthier lifestyle, even if you haven’t been successful long term.

The first step is believing you can make the changes to live life on your terms and reveal a healthier and happier you.

You’re one day closer to living a more fulfilling life as the best version of you.

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Wednesday, October 19, 2016

11 Things That Really Matter in a Relationship apart from Communication

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When starting a relationship, it's important to have great communication skills, as it may help you work together in sustaining a long-term relationship. However, communication isn't everything, and there are factors that go into relationships that can determine whether it will be successful or not.

A relationship can bring about conflict, emotions, and desires, and often those are met or addressed through communication; however, being able to communicate can't solve all problems. Sometimes that bond or chemistry isn't there, and other times, even through communication, the message isn't strong enough to create change or bring results. 

Here are 11 things that matter in relationships that have nothing to do with communication. For optimal success, focus on implementing these factors, as well as communication, into your relationships.

1. Similar Interests

Find a partner who has similar interests to you. While no two people should be identical, and differences can help balance out a relationship, a mutual love for being active, seeing movies, go out to restaurants, or traveling, for instance, could be something that can bring fun and romance to a relationship.

2. Sex

Sex is definitely not everything, but there should be a physical attraction between you and your partner. If there's no spark, or you find that you are no longer interested (or your partner is no longer interested), in making time for romance, it could signal that there's a problem in your relationship.

3. Similar Values

You and your partner should have similar values. For instance, do you both want kids? Do you have the same political views? Do you have some overlapping priorities in life (family, career, travel, exercise, etc.)? These are some things to discuss, especially as a relationship lasts longer.

4. A Healthy Relationship With Parents

Having parents too involved in an intimate relationship can cause tension and imbalance, and can make your partner feel that you value your mom's or dad's opinion over his or hers. Thus, put your partner first, and make sure you have a good balance.

5. Kindness

Even if you can communicate and forgive countless times, kindness is a key factor in any relationship. It's important to be kind to whomever you're with, and if you notice that your partner is routinely being unkind, it might be wise to re-evaluate the relationship and figure out what type of person you should be with.

6. An Ability To Be Yourself

Being genuine and natural within a relationship is incredibly important, since if you can't be yourself with your partner, something's wrong. Ask yourself if you're putting on a front or can just laugh and feel free around your significant other.

7. Laughter

Lemmer emphasizes the importance of laughter in a relationship. Humor is fun and can really bond people together, Lemmer explains, and it also denotes a sense of being natural and goofy, which is a behavior that can signal feelings of acceptance and freedom. If there's not enough silly moments and humor, a relationship might feel cold or boring.

8. A Friendship

While not all relationships need to start with a friendship before becoming romantic, there should be a layer of friendship within any romantic bond, as friendship means that you like each other and each other's company. If you find that your significant other resembles a best friend, then it might mean that your relationship can be sustainable long-term.

9. Trust

According to Preston Ni M.S.B.A. over interview with Psychology Today, having trust in a relationship is incredibly important, and it lays the foundation for how it could evolve. If you don't trust your partner, that never-ending fear and resentment might be prevalent, and this could cause a lot of tension and distance moving forward.

10. Love

While new relationships might not have love yet, there should be a possibility to find love within a successful and nurturing relationship. Partnerships that are based off of love are usually more able to overcome conflict, even if communication is tricky at times. There's a time to work through things, especially if there's a real love there.

11. Safety

If you feel safe with your partner, as in he or she will protect you from dangerous situations, as well as be respectful of your body, then there's a greater chance for the relationship to evolve. If you don't feel respected by your partner, or you feel like he or she has a bad temper, has done things that question inhibitions, or isn't on the lookout as a protector when out late at night, then you might want to find someone you feel in better hands with.

While communication is one of the most important factors in any relationship, looking at these other areas, as well as thinking of your level of happiness, will shed better light on where you and your partner stand and whether or not you should progress forward together.

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America's First Lady Michelle Obama dazzles in rose gold chainmail Atelier Versace gown for her final State Dinner

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Michelle Obama looked so stylish in the eye-catching gold dress by atelier Versace she wore for the final state dinner on Tuesday night.  The first lady has hosted 14 state dinners.

The first lady and her husband, Barack Obama welcomed the Italian Prime Minister Matteo Renzi, his wife, Agnese Landini and various high-profile guests to the event.

The figure-hugging gown looks so good on her. She is a stunner.
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